“I am too intelligent, too demanding, and too resourceful for anyone to be able to take charge of me entirely. No one knows me or loves me completely. I have only myself”
Indian Administrative Services(IAS) is the most coveted post in India with tough competition at all levels. But bureaucracy in India is controlled by politicians and they are tied down; letting corruption spread its wings taking the law and order in its hands.
The latest case is of the suspension of a 29 year old woman IAS officer- Durga Shakti Nagpal in Noida ,Uttar Pradesh by the Chief Minister. Her mistake was that she came down heavily against the sand mining mafia who are illegally involved in removing sand from river banks and have the political backing.
why I write about her? Its common in India for the IAS officers to dance at the political tunes. So what’s new?
Its probably very few women executives who have the will power and courage to take on the corrupt system head on. Not even bothered about their personal or professional security; this dynamic officers are the face of that young India who are tired of the corrupt ways of the government and their nexus with the businessmen and the criminals. Durga Shakti reminds us of the fact that we Indians want they can stand up against corruption in Public office despite consequences.
A honest woman officer suspended for carrying out her duties, doing her work. This is the reality of India in 2013- educated youth trying to change the face of India and take on the corrupt politicians…….an effort which cannot and should not go un noticed.
- Durga Shakti Nagpal -reinstate Her With Due Honour !!! (ecopackindia.wordpress.com)
- Brinda Karat says suspension of female IAS officer sends ‘distressing’ message (dnaindia.com)
hope you will become a mother of ten children, and finally, your husband will be your eleventh child. And unless you become a mother to your husband, you have not succeeded in being a true wife.”
It is very strange but has immense psychological insight in it, because this is what the modern psychology finds, that every man is looking in the woman for his mother, and every woman is looking in the man for her father.
That’s why every marriage is a failure: you cannot find your mother. The woman you have married has not come to your house to be your mother, she wants to be your wife, a lover. But the Upanishadic blessing, almost five thousand or six thousand years old, gives an insight to the modern psychology. A woman, whatsoever she is, is basically a mother.
A father is an invented institution, it is not natural. And soon the father may become out of date.
Once the science of genetics develops, the more scientific, more clinical, more hygienic way will be that fathers donate sperm to the hospital, and the medical experts choose the right living sperm that can be injected into the woman. Every man should not be allowed to be a father. Because of this accidental fatherhood, the earth is full of blind people, lame people, crazy people, mad people, retarded people… It cannot be left accidental.
The sperm may have come from somebody else; you have to be generous in favor of the children so they will not be blind, will not suffer their lives as cripples. And moreover,
you will be able to ask the medical expert for the kind of child that you want.
The basic sperm shows all the qualities that will manifest later on. If you want a scientist it can be seen that this person is going to become one –or a great poet, or an engineer, or a doctor, or just a vagabond. So the accidental birth can disappear and a planned birth can take its place. It will just take a little time for stupid human minds to get accustomed to the new idea.
But the mother will remain indispensable. They have tried experiments: they have given children all the facilities, medication, all the food… every perfection from different
branches of science, but strangely the children go on shrinking and will die within three months. Then they discovered that the mother’s body and her warmth is an absolute necessity for life to grow. That warmth in this vast cold universe is absolutely necessary in the beginning, otherwise the child will feel abandoned. He will shrink and die.
There is no need for man to feel inferior to woman. The whole idea arises because you take man and woman as two species. They belong to one humanity, and they both have complementary qualities. They both need each other, and only when they are together are they whole…
Life should be taken with ease. Differences are not contradictions. They can help each other and immensely enhance each other. The woman who loves you can enhance your creativity, can inspire you to heights you have never dreamed of. And she asks nothing.
She simply wants your love, which is her basic right.
Most of the things that make men and women different are conditional. Differences should be maintained because they make men and women attractive to each other, but
they should not be used as condemnation. I would like both to become an organic whole, remaining at the same time absolutely free because love never creates bondage, it gives
freedom. Then we can create a better world. Half of the world has been denied its contribution and that half, the women, had an immense capacity to contribute to the world. It would have made it a beautiful paradise.
So I don’t ask that they should be equal, that they should wear the same clothes, that they should behave like men, or use vulgar language because the man uses it.
The woman should search into her own soul for her own potential and develop it, and she will have a beautiful future.
Man and woman are neither equal nor unequal, they are unique. And the meeting of two unique beings brings something miraculous into existence.”
Wow! such a small excerpt which provides a wonderful insight to an entirely different perspective. If you come to think of it, women are made so different than a male; both physically and physiologically but somehow there is a battle of sexes than peaceful cohabitation…..more so in the contemporary India.
We are a deep rooted culture with a definite bias towards the sexes……but it is time to contemplate how we retain our feminity and achieve our freedom…
I am a post graduate in Economics who was teaching pre university economics. Then after my Management degree I started working as a supply chain professional for a established brand in Bangalore. When I began looking for work after resigning from my present one, I was confident that I would get one without much headache. But my confidence was short lived. For the same job in another company, I was rejected for being a woman. They did not want a woman handling the procurement of an organisation.
Another company told me that they were looking for a younger male candidate. They thought that a woman would not be able to do the necessary leg work and that they were apt for desk jobs in Human resources/sales/Public relations/Front office.
Women in India are pretty much working in every sphere; but still established companies also believe that women can be employed only for certain posts only.
“At primary school stage, most teachers should be women because:”
a. can teach children better than men.
b. know basic content better than men.
c. are available on lower salaries.
d. can deal with children with love and affection.
The above question is asked for candidates who are the future Professors of India, the caretakers of millions of younger generation.
This shows how the Indians still live the fact that women are apt for certain kinds of jobs only. They are taken to be emotional, kind hearted, not competitive and above all lacking the killer instinct. But if you look around, most of the five star hotels have Male chefs; cooking which was supposedly a woman’s job. Women are now pilots, in army, in politics and at gas stations…..but an Indian woman has to always fight for her identity irrespective of what post she holds which challenges a typical male bastion.
These gender roles are embedded into our culture, the way we are brought up and conditioned….to be mothers, caretakers, nurses, cooks and air hostesses……The indian woman struggles constantly challenging these stereotypes…carving a place for herself.
As for me, I have still not managed to get a job for myself……
In India if a woman is single, happy and has male friends then she is taken to be ready to mingle freely. The urban, independent woman is a great friend with no excess baggage. They are great buddies and fun to hang around with. But its really difficult to have a social life for a single mature woman. It starts as a friendship but men come with their own set of expectations.
There are men who ask you out for coffee or movie and you readily agree. But majority of times you come across as an Easy lay. The Indian men want liberated women friends for creating a variety to spice up their lives.For the free spirited Indian women, its so hard to find a man who is just not thinking about jumping to the bed…..I don’t want to imply that all Indian men are the same but its the truth that men do not really bother about the thin line between friendship and attraction
I am single and way past marriageable age. OMG….still I have to answer all the questions about why I am not married…..I think everyone thinks me to be in a pitiable condition and the advises are umpteen. In India it is a norm ” to settle down”. So till this time of my life I should have found a male with a fat bank balance and at least two kids…..Its so difficult to make anyone understand that not all women see a Man as an ATM machine; the woman psyche can demand attachment, companionship and understanding in a mutual relationship.
It’s a choice and not a compulsion …its better to be single than to make a misfit or choice. Let me put it my way….I still did not manage to get a better fit ;I mean better half
There are many indian women who prefer to go single than to be in a repressive and monotonous relationship; those who want to discover themselves with a suitable companion.They are happy with their single status…they are economically self sufficient and enjoy their lives. But the society still has to come to terms with this liberated single and free woman……..dats a long way in this country